It’s not uncommon. Unfortunately, many of us have lived through some truly awful things. If this is you, yes, I can work with you. I don’t primarily focus on trauma work specifically, but I have my own history and it informs how I interact with people. When help someone on their journey, we start where they are and world within reality. Reality is beautiful, but it is also a brutal place. That said, I am not a therapist. If you’re in the middle of processing a trauma and you want to work with me, I strongly advise that you also see a mental health professional while working with me. If you are currently in the midst of a mental health crisis, I cannot work with you unless you are actively receiving care from a mental health provider. My work is not meant to be a replacement for therapy or mental health services.

Absolutely not. Let’s give some examples: “do I have to forgive in order to grow?” No. If somebody did some bullshit to you, being angry with them is valid, and the best way for you to grow, is to understand that anger and why their bad behavior implicates them and not you. Being angry with them is not a moral failure. “Is it true that I have to love myself before anybody will…” no. I can’t think of a single person in my life who I love where my loving them has to do with their feelings about themselves. Not one. So I know with certainty that it does not work that way. People say that because it’s what they learned to say and it’s easy to repeat. They can sound wise without having to be wise and avoid really being there for someone at the same time. It’s lazy. It’s false. And they’re full of shit. “Do I have to be positive?” No, positivity and negativity are part of a damaging system built on a false binary that pressures people into reducing their experiences and trying to fix the things that hurt by pretending that they don’t hurt. It’s bullshit. All of these things are bullshit. If it’s something that you saw on a positivity poster, and then it was applied as a universal rule, it is the fact that these things are applied universally that makes them bullshit. It isn’t the words themselves, but the ways that these ideas are used to subvert, avoid, and appear wise at the expense of those that are hurting and brave enough to be honest about their pain. It is the weak pretending to be strong by stepping on those who are strong enough to have the courage to appear weak. It is the cheap, unverified, unsubstantiated, damaging work of arrogant fools. THAT is why it’s bullshit. We’re not doing that.

Like with most things, what you put into it will dictate what you get out of it. But it’s not a rigid curriculum. It’s a move away from that mentality as a whole. A move towards a more organic way of existing and interacting with the self and with the world. And that’s not some bullshit avoidance of the question. It’s just how things work. We like to think we can section off the day, but the day has never heard of borders between minutes and hours. Ideally, the time commitment is always. Because, ideally, this is going to change how you exist as a whole. It takes repetition. Intentionality. It’s about a new way of being. I will work with you to customize methods that respect your schedule. But, realistically, if you put 5 minutes per day into it, you’ll get a 5 minutes per day level benefit from it. If you think of it as separate from anything else in your life, then, unfortunately, it will be. If you’re looking for real growth and change, then let’s do that. If you’re looking for kind of a decorative side quest, this might not actually be the thing for you.

No, you do not. My job is to help people to challenge their indoctrination and find empowerment. But true empowerment means that YOU are making the final decisions about what you believe. Not society. Not your past. Not your trauma. And NOT me. YOU are the authority on how you move through this world. I have spiritual capacities and insights that I lean on to help me in guiding people through this process of empowerment, but you don’t need to believe in those things. That’s a part of how I exist, it doesn’t have to color what you think about this world. And whether or not you believe in any given god or tradition simply is not a part of what I’m trying to bring to your life. I want to bring you greater agency and empowerment through the application of question and process. You are beautiful. You are powerful. You have agency already. I am working to promote that agency.

I certainly hope so. That’s the whole point of what I’m trying to help people find the power to do. To change your mind about how existence operates and how you operate within it in ways that lead to better outcomes and a more authentic sense of self and context. If you change your mind about working with me, specifically, these are my policies: If it’s within the first thirty days after buying a service and you haven’t redeemed the service then you can get a full refund. If it’s within the first thirty days and you’ve redeemed part of the service, then you can get a partial refund, which depends on some of the particulars of exactly what’s happened. My cancellation policy for being able to get a refund for a single appointment is also available as long as it’s within thirty days of purchase, with a 24 hour notice cancellation policy. The thirty day limit on refunds is there to protect me and give me stability.